Minutes March 2

March 2, 2010

Attending: 24

Over the Rainbow festival last weekend
LGBTA is doing “Queer Memoirs”
-Similar to Vagina Memoirs but with coming out stories
-Auditions: April 1st, VU 464, know what aspect of your coming out story you want to share
--Looking for a diverse group of people, many different stories (hopefully around 8 people)
--Check out the Facebook group!
Social Event
-Sunday, Boulevard Park (3 pm), event is on Facebook

THE ART OF PERSUASION: Aristotle’s Ideas
Pathos
-Relating to someone emotionally
-How have you heard this used?
--“Why can you get married, but I can’t?”
--“How would you feel if it were you?”
--“Why would I choose to be harassed every day?”
-Positives: quicker, sometimes easier to relate to, can really hit home, memorable, can connect people with each other (if they care about you…), you can’t argue that someone doesn’t fell a certain way, works in 30 sec TV commercials, with things that are already emotional, works for civil rights not all bigger issues
-Negatives: vague, subjective, can’t really have a sustained argument based only on emotion, different moral/ethical backgrounds, relate to things differently, can be used to distort the argument
Logos
-Relating to someone logically/with a logical statement
-How have you heard this used?
--“Gay marriage will bring money into the state.”
--“The constitution says…” (If… then…)
--“There is a genetic disposition…”
-Positives: can cater to everyone, must have evidence, exposes hypocrisy/weakness, you can debate it, works well in a lecture situation, actual argument or debate (as opposed to less formal conversation), anything that has to do with the government, when talking with someone using a religious argument
-Negatives: must have evidence, can be used to come to contradictory conclusions, you can debate it, if they have a different set of beliefs their logic can be different than yours, can be debunked very quickly
Ethos
-Relating to someone ethically, catering to their character
-HUMILITY
--Thinking of others before yourself, be able to laugh at yourself, counterbalance to ego
--Shift in your character, not just a switch you can turn on
--Be strong in your viewpoints without being rude
--Meet people where they are
--Demonstrate that you care about them – earn authority, trust from them
-How can you start on the road to becoming more humble?
--REALLY listen – what are they saying, what do they mean?
--Watch your triggers – know what sets you off and what happens
--Find connections to them
--Monitor your own behavior
--Recognize and accept corrections to your behavior, acknowledge that you’re not perfect
--Forgiveness
--Empathy
---Being able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes – not necessarily agreeing with what they’re saying, but understanding why they think that – TRUE UNDERSTANDING
---Try to get as close to empathy as you can
--Sympathy – try to get to this point with EVERYONE
--Remember that you are talking to PEOPLE




EVENTS FOR NEXT QUARTER
Coffee with Campus Christian Fellowship?
Hug a Queer Day – Facebook Event

APRIL
15th: AIDS Vigil
16th: Day of Silence, Night of Noise

MAY
3rd – 7th: Marriage Equality Event
7th: Marriage Forum
15th – 16th: Relay for Life
26th – 28th: Military/DADT Event